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Before “The Bigga” Conversation
So you are not getting along very well with that other person and your stress level is high. You have decided it is time for “The Bigga” conversation. It takes incredible courage to even seriously consider it especially in conflict-reticent cultures.
When NOT to Have That Conscious Conversation
So many people are talking about crucial conversations, courageous conversations, fierce conversations and constructive conversations. I am all for them. But there is also a time to NOT have that conversation.
Happy Brave Thanksgiving
I challenge you to make space for a variety of perspectives and to modulate the tendency to fight, flee, freeze or appease. I invite you to engage and not let your reptilian brain run the show. How do you do that?
Spotting a “no” disguised as a “yes”
When someone says “yes” that sounds like a “no” or a “maybe” I believe it is incumbent on the person making the request to gently press for their level of commitment to the request. When they say a firm “no” it may be best to let go.
Giving Verbal Feedback In A Group Setting
Where in your life could you benefit from intervening where others are acting in ways that create difficult situations? How can you do it more skillfully?
How to Decrease Distractions and Increase Safety
One of things I have learned is that there is more to safety than simply doing what the manufacturer recommends. Whatever tool you are using, following the safety guidelines is not enough anymore.
Emotional Intelligence – High EQ vs. Low EQ
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Expensive Silence
When you know that you should say something and you don’t you may be inadvertently contributing to the problem at hand. Silence does not often help a situation that needs an interruption. And there are often costs associated with that lack of interruption. That is why it is expensive silence.
The Gift of a True Apology
Sometimes apologies do not work. Sometimes they do. Here are some suggestions you can try on at this holiday time to ease the tension in your relationships at home or at work and achieve a relational breakthrough.
When and how to talk about GUNS
Recently I attended an open forum on gun control. There were over 150 people in the room. It was really intense.
